Tell me, who are you today?
Are you the healer who can hold your clients with wisdom and clarity, and with what seems like limitless compassion and insight? Are you a caregiver or a friend who can give freely and also tend to your own needs? Are you a person who, perhaps, is not in an officially named healing profession, yet are passionate to contribute healing to the universe you touch through your business and work? Are you filled with trust, rooted in your own strength, purpose, and calling?
I do hope so, but I also understand that the life of a healer and a helper is rarely so simple.
Maintaining the mental energy and the spiritual connection that sustains you can be such a challenge. Plus, it’s so hard to balance giving to others and your own self-care when you know there’s such need out there. It’s hard to say no, even to slow down, in the face of all the suffering in our world. It can feel impossible to keep serving and smiling and believing. Maybe you’re exhausted, drained, spent.
I’m Dr. Royce Fitts, Spiritual Counselor, DreamWorker, and an ordained minister with decades of experience as a psychotherapist. I understand this beautiful tensionthat exists at the heart of a healer’s life.
Depending on the moment I find myself in, I am fluid and firm, full of hope and despair, ready to help and needing help.
Maybe I’m something like you.
I call myself an atheist-agnostic-believer-dreamer. (How’s that for an answer to “who are you today?”)
These terms may seem like terrific contradictions, but I think we all carry many identities with us. Perhaps you’ll see some of your own experience in these definitions, changeable as they are. When I’m faced with questions about how to balance caring for others and my own self-care, and when I look at all the pain, cruelty and woundedness in the world, I look to my understanding of myself, and of the universe, to see my way through.
Atheist: When I experience the anguish of pain and suffering in my soul, in the soul of the world, in the universe of all that is, I cannot believe in the existence of god or goddess. How empty our worlds – and words – are, empty of the divine in all its forms(s). It’s not cruel to state that we have no divine(s). This is “just is.”
We are random in universes of randomness. I take heart in what is called natural theology or philosophy, concluding that there is no such thing as the super-natural. No divine intervention. No miracles. No one with whom to plead for one and, no one to thank, for that matter. We are what we are. We are what we get. We are what we give.
I am peaceful in this knowledge of the nothingness of god/dess. I am not flaming with any fundamentalist fire that demands I fight the belief systems of those who do have some version of God. Ultimately, our life and universes are about being – being you, being me, experiencing the beingness of all. We have mystery, lots of mystery. We’ll probably never understand it all. And that’s OK. Hopefully, for our common good, we will understand more and more and make less and less mystery. And, I do know this: we have room, lots of room, for love and wholeness and kindness and ethics and healing.
Agnostic: I am both firm and fluid. Often, I have a case of the “I don’t knows.”I do not mind changing my mind. I must, in fact, change. I have ambivalence about all. I experience the beingness of the universes and I am in awe, bigly. I experience the mystery and wonder of how this world happened without some form of divine intervention. I mean, really, how did that tree evolve that kind of leaf for that specific purpose? How many leaves died trying? Was there some form of divineness that nudged that leaf along?
I must be real, must be honest: I do not know, and yet, I think I know. I experience the curses and blessings of seeing all sides of issues. I am blind and deeply insightful, all at the same time. I have room to believe that there is no god/dess. I have room to believe that, maybe, there is, or are, divine(s). I celebrate mystery and suspect that within mystery is some form of divinity. There is so much I do not know and yet, I do know this: we have room, lots of room for love and wholeness and kindness and ethics and healing.
Believer: I do believe. I was raised Christian. Deeply Christian. Fundamentalist Christian. I grew, mostly away, from all that, and I served as pastor in my early years. I studied theology, grew to love those explorations. I found faith and freedom and passion – and curiosity, too. Somewhere along that path, I found a form of theology called “process.” It speaks of god/dess as being deeply relational to the universes and that in this deep relation is an on-going creation and re-creation of all, even recreation, the “play of creation”. I love that god/dess is changeable and is affected by the experiences of beauty, joys, tragedies, sorrows, mistakes of all of beingness.
In turn, I affect god/dess. I am within god/dess. Everything thing I experience, all that is, is experienced by god/dess. Planets blowing up: god/dess feels. New leaves on new trees: god/dess feels. Discoveries of medicine: god/dess feels. Everything of everything is experienced by god/dess. God/dess yearns for wholeness, beauty, adventure, and even seeks to bring it about, nudges it along as best as is godly possible, never stopping, always willing for creation to be re-creation, for the goodness of all.
This is mystery. I am lovingly mystical and embrace mysticism and mystery with joy. I experience Jesus as my personal, mysterious, and mystical friend. He is one of the many, many whitecaps on the ocean of creation. Leading, pleading, challenging me, and all creation to re-create into what we know, and we do know this: we have room, lots of room for love and wholeness and kindness and ethics, and healing.
Dreamer: The mystical and mysterious are often, most often for me, experienced in dreams. I experience synchronicities, terror, wisdom, evolution, humor, healing, challenge, sensuality, outrageousness, courage, sacrifice, honor and dishonor, the past, present, and the future in my dreams. A dream is a full-service station of wonders and wanders.
I believe we evolve through our dreams. We invent ideas, songs, stories, books, god/desses in dreams. We visit and are visited by our ancestors. Dreams come with loads of grace, knowing that we will likely dismiss most, if not all of them, yet dreams keep coming and do not cease. I cannot stop dreaming and cannot stop paying attention to them. I am cursed and blessed to tend to my dreams and I am on a mission to curse and bless others to do so as well.
When it comes to dreams, my own health and wholeness – and yours, and that of all beings across all our universes – are at stake. We must pay attention to the nightmares within or we will create the nightmares without (yes, I am talking about things like wars and rumors and projections of evil). I must dream, we all must dream. And, we do know this: in our dreams, we have room, lots of room for love and wholeness and kindness and ethics, and healing.
I invite you to engage with me at one or all of these levels. My work as a healer who is here to heal the healers is intended to greet you wherever you are in your journey as a dreamer and a being trying to work out your own relationship to spirit.
Please explore what I offer healers who are themselves in need of healing:
“how we live and move and have our being”…
the breath we breathe each moment…
our thoughts, actions, and experiences of our being and the world’s being…
the all that we are and “the all that is”…
For you and me, For the wounded world…
“being the change we seek”.
~Dr. Royce Fitts
My Credentials and Resume
I have nearly 40 years of seasoned experience as a human relations professional, psychotherapist and theologian working in the areas of spiritual and emotional health.
- Doctor of Ministry Degree with a specialization in Individual, Couples and Family Psychotherapy from Christian Theological Seminary (www.cts.edu), Indianapolis, Indiana (1992).
- Ordained and Certified as a Dream Work Minister and Facilitator through the Marin Institute for Projective Dream Work, Fairfield, California (www.jeremytaylor.com).
- Fellow in The American Association of Pastoral Counselors www.aapc.org
- Clinical Fellow in The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy www.aamft.org
U.S. State Licenses:
- Marriage and Family Therapist #35000903A, Indiana
- Mental Health Practioner #1065; Certified Marriage and Family Therapist #019, Nebraska
- Marriage and Family Therapist #108, Wyoming
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